What is an authentic partnership? While we form many partnerships
throughout life, some are just temporary, some fall apart over time, but
the most valuable ones, the essential partnerships are constructed for
the long-term, based on mutual respect and personal regard. How
important are authentic partnerships in your life?
I recently attended a presentation, "Bravo Zulu". Dr. Jennifer Carson
shared vast information about the relationships we form and how we value
each. While she focused on the military, examining the
various branches and what partnerships might mean to each, I found that
every bit of her information was vital for any and all relationships.
The more we share and care, the stronger the bonds created.
Certain
elements make for a empowerment, equality, and collective capacity.
These include having a genuine regard for oneself as well as other
members of the partnership, focusing on shared goals and processes, and
constructing inter-connectedness that builds energy and trust. A shared
vision, a belief in one another, decision-making that reflects the wants
and needs of all, and using perspectives of self and others to
determine the best steps forward.
Some of the
requirements to expand relationships include regular reflection and
dialogue. Think about a movie you have watched where the characters are
mired in confusion and mistrust. As viewers, we have often seen the
multiple sides of the situation, however, the actors appear oblivious to
external events. Imagine if they just talked? They might then connect
and commit to a direction that could solve problems. With conversation
comes the idea of a safe place: "I shared and it was accepted; now I can
speak once again." Or the opposite: "That was horrendous - time to cut
and run!"
When we value perspectives, ideas, and
ideals, relationships grow. Diversity is respected just as commonality
is enjoyed and revered. Once the communication gates are open, partners
can work to keep them open, or to close them slightly or temporarily
when going forward is too painfully, too close to the heart. What a
difference one-on-one time makes in designing strength and extending
connections.
As mentioned, relationships come in
many forms: parent or guardian 1 to parent or guardian 2; parents to
children; sibling to sibling; extended family to other family members.
Those within this realm are often the toughest, referencing the old
adage, "You can choose your friends, but your family has already been
chosen." Like it or not, family is yours forever. Even moving, cutting
people off, slicing the ties while adding distance, do not make
individuals less related. So why not just talk? Why not try to
communicate? Why not consider a relationship? Why not some authenticity?
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